Difference in Sexes

After the meeting

Therefore, what?

Step 1:
Talk to your children

Younger Children

1. Why do you think it’s important to have a mom and a dad?

2. What do you like about mom? How does she help you? What does she teach you?

3. What do you like about dad? How does he help you? What does he teach you?

Children's Rights

If children could always choose whether to have both a mom and a dad, do you think they would? Why?

Contributions of Mom and Dad

What would you miss about having a mom if you didn’t have one? What would you miss about having a dad?

Step 2:
Talk to family members and friends

Personal Experiences

What differences did you see in how your mother and father interacted with you? Do you think those differences made unique contributions to your own development?

Same-sex Marriage

The laws for same-sex marriage have changed the laws regarding parenthood, increasing the number of children being raised without one or both of their biological parents. What are your thoughts on that?

Who Comes First?

Are children’s rights and interests as important to adults today as adults’ desires and interests? What evidence is there to support or refute that?

The Traditional Family

Decades of research show that children do best in a home raised by their biological parents. Why do you think that the traditional family structure has fallen out of favor in our society when it is so beneficial to children?

Biological Ties

If biology is not a critical element in the relationship between children and their parents, why do children raised by anyone else seek to know their biological mom and/or dad?

Step 3:
Engage the Broader Community

Appreciate Differences

Appreciate what mothers and fathers bring to parenting that is unique. For decades the maternal style of parenting has received the most attention from family scholars. But divorce and other family structure changes mean that many children today do not experience enough parenting from fathers. Many men may be completely unaware of the importance of their unique contributions to children’s development.

Both within our families and outside our families we need to acknowledge and appreciate the unique contributions of both mothers and fathers.

Support Family Time

Privately and publicly we should support efforts for mothers and fathers to have time with their children and to not be ashamed to prioritize family responsibilities. Business work-family policies should reflect the importance of children to both fathers and mothers.

Positive Father Figures

Privately and publicly we should make it possible for more children to experience the influence of good male figures in their lives. In private settings including in our own extended families and church congregations, we should work to help children have access to positive, strong male figures in their lives. Our public policies should also reflect that need.

Oppose Harmful Laws

Stand in opposition to laws that set the stage for children to be intentionally stripped of their biological mother and father (including surrogacy, all types of third party reproduction, and changes to birth certificates that allow for “Parent A/Parent B” arrangements). 

Talking Points-Differences Between men and women

Mothers are distinctly suited as attachment figures, and fathers as separation figures. Mothers help children achieve emotional security, and fathers help children explore and succeed in their world.

Mothers and fathers can and do make similar contributions to the welfare of their children, but they do not typically play the same role in their children’s lives.

Father involvement is associated with positive peer relationships, respect for rules and authority, and greater confidence and skill in the wider world. Mother involvement is associated with greater emotional regulation and closer relationships with friends and kin.”

One of the most important learnings for every human child is how to be a full member of its own sex and at the same time fully relate to the opposite sex. This is not an easy learning; it requires ‘the continuing presence of a father and a mother.’”

“When biology is not the basis for an adult/child relationship, children often suffer diminished mental, physical and emotional outcomes. ‘Intent to parent” is fraught with risks to children.  Policies which confer parental rights simply based on adult desires do no service to children.” 

Ignoring the unique bonds between children and their parents legally and conceptually transforms children into the ‘object of rights’ rather than ‘a subject of rights.’

The National Longitudinal Lesbian Family Study claims that raising children in alternative families does them no harm, but it contains many methodological flaws. It was funded and conducted by activist organizations, used a hand-picked sample of lesbian couples with a vested interest in positive results, relied on self-reports, and the findings contradicted all other family studies.

 “A child’s relationship to his biological parents is the closest of that child’s human relationships. It is identity-determining. To be born of different parents is to be an entirely different person…children can miss the love of absent biological parents even if they are well-loved by others.”

“Intent-based” parenthood is about what adults want, not what children need.

“Women experience a flood of hormones during pregnancy, childbirth, and breast-feeding that primes the brain for dramatic change… Affected brain regions include those that enable a mother to multitask to meet baby’s needs, help her to empathize with her infant’s pain and emotions, and regulate how she responds to positive stimuli (such as baby’s coo) or to perceived threats.”

“Except in cases of high and unremitting parental conflict, children who grew up in households with their married mother and father did better on a wide range of economic, social, educational and emotional measures than the children raised in other kinds of family arrangements.”

“Initiatives aimed at changing historic male and female parenting and work patterns are based on the view that these historic patterns are socially constructed. But pregnancy and childbirth are not gender-neutral activities. They are biologically constructed … Women’s greater inclination to nurture infants and toddlers is also rooted in hormones and in brain structure. Women’s bodies have more receptors for the nurturing hormone oxytocin than men’s. More recent imaging research shows that mothers’ brains change during pregnancy and after birth in ways that seem to increase their “emotional attachment to their babies.’”

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Advocacy Tip

Teach your children; Teach all children

Our children are the future. They need to know what is happening in their corner of the world, as well as the wider society – and what it all means. It begins in quiet conversations in the car ride on the way to school, and over the dinner table, or while working together at home or elsewhere.You teach by your example; what you say; what you support; what you do.

Answer your children’s questions truthfully. Do not avoid difficult and sensitive topics. It is better that you address a topic with your child two years too early, than five minutes too late. More often than not, the first person who speaks and explains an issue to a child will be viewed as the expert on that topic. Be the first person to have the conversation.

“A teacher affects eternity; he can never tell where his influence stops.” Henry Adams


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