Talk to your children and family members
Don’t shy away from sharing with your children that marriage, although challenging, is worth the effort and central to a happy and successful life.
Celebrate your anniversary each year and have a conversation about it. Show your children your wedding photos. Tell them your love story and how you knew your spouse was the right one for you. Even if you’re a single parent, you can use still have these conversations with your children.
Let your children see that no one comes between mom and dad, not even them. Exemplify: “We are on the same team. We don’t compete with each other or keep score. We work together and sacrifice for each other.”
Older Teens and Young Adults
Help young people understand that marriage is not what is portrayed in popular media.
Teach your children that you don’t just fall in and out of love. Marriage is not a one-time act; it’s a continuous decision. Love is a choice.
Explain the intergenerational aspect of marriage and help them understand that they are part of something that came before them and they will have an impact on those who will come after them.
Talk to your friends
Question for dicussion
Does the government care about who you love? If not, then why over centuries have societies and government been involved in marriage?
What are the benefits of marriage to you/society?
In your opinion, what is the optimal age to get married? Why is this?
Engage the Broader Community
Support legislation that encourages pre-marital counseling and mandatory counseling and waiting periods prior to a divorce (See Parental Divorce Reduction Act).
Monitor your child’s school curricula and textbooks watching for positive messages about marriage and family. When you find messages that undermine marriage and family, be vocal and seek change.
Model healthy marriage. Show and share how it is done. Don’t be afraid to speak openly about the challenges and the goodness of marriage.
Support other people in their marriages: attend weddings and receptions; let young couples know they are part of something bigger and that the community has a stake in their marriage being successful; pray for your marriage relationship and for others’ marriages; babysit children so others can have a date night; start a small group to study marriage topics, etc.
Live Out the Truth of Marriage
Husbands and wives must be faithful to one another through thick and thin. Mothers and fathers must take their obligations to their children seriously. The unmarried must prepare now for their future marital lives so they can live out the vows they will make.
Whatever the law or culture may say, share the fundamental truths about marriage: that men and women are distinct and complementary, that it takes a man and a woman to bring a child into the world, and that children deserve a chance to be raised by their mom and dad.
Marriage increases the likelihood that fathers
and mothers have good relationships with their
Children are most likely to enjoy family stability
when they are born into a married family.
Children are less likely to thrive in complex
Cohabitation is not the functional equivalent of
Growing up outside of an intact marriage
increases the likelihood that children will
themselves divorce or become unwed parents.
Marriage is a virtually universal human
Marriage, and a normative commitment to marriage, foster high-quality relationships between adults, as well as between parents and children.
Marriage has important biosocial consequences for adults and children.
Married couples seem to build more wealth on average than singles or cohabiting couples.
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Get Out of Your Comfort Zone
Birds of a feather do flock together and that is essential in advocacy efforts. Be open minded about the individuals you engage and advocate with. It is rare to find an individual – let alone an organization
or a religion – which you agree with on every tenet, topic or issue.
When you find common ground with someone on an issue, go forward together. You don’t have to agree on every issue, just the one that is before you.
The days of not being willing to engage with others on policy efforts because that person doesn’t share your religion, is a different race, or comes from a different socio-economic group are over. You will need every person who shares your perspective on an issue. Get acquainted, share expertise and experience. It is a wonderful opportunity to meet others and engage in an important cause – together.
“If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.” —African Proverb